When we first began to evolve consciously, we automatically begin to receive opposite-sex energy. It comes in naturally from the energy in the universe. But we must be careful, because if another person comes along who offers this energy directly we can cut ourselves off from the true source. Most parents compete with their own children for energy, and that has an effect on all of us. Because this competition is taking place, none of us have resolved this opposite-sex issue. We are all stuck at the stage where we are looking for our opposite-sex energy outside of ourselves, in the person of a male or female we can think of as ideal and magical and can possess sexually. Using a female child as an example, all little girls know the first attempts to integrate her male side is through her father. She wants him around and close to her all the time. Looking for the male energy to compliment her female side she draws this from her father. From the male energy she receives a sense of completion and euphoria. But she mistakenly thinks that the only way to have this energy is by keeping her father close physically.